Coming Clean

Coming Clean

A Memoir

Book - 2013
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"Kim Miller is an immaculately put-together woman with a great career, a loving boyfriend, and a tidy apartment on Manhattan's Upper West Side. You would never guess that Kim grew up behind the closed doors of her family's idyllic Long Island house, navigating between teetering stacks of aging newspapers, broken computers, and boxes upon boxes of unused junk festering in every room--the product of her father's painful and unending struggle with hoarding. In this moving coming-of-age story, Kim brings to life her rat-infested home, her childhood consumed by concealing her father's shameful secret from friends, and the emotional burden that ultimately led to an attempt to take her own life. And in beautiful prose, Miller sheds light on her complicated yet loving relationship with her parents that has thrived in spite of the odds. Coming Clean is a story about recognizing where we come from and the relationships that define us--and about finding peace in the homes we make for ourselves"--P. [2] of cover.
"Kimberly Rae Miller is a writer and actress living in New York City. She blogs at"--P. [3] of cover.
Publisher: Boston : New Harvest/Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2013.
ISBN: 9780544025837
Characteristics: 256 pages ;,22 cm.


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Jul 22, 2019

I stumbled across this book and loved it. Read it in less than three days which is a record for me! Kimberly Miller does a great job of telling her story of growing up in a hoarder house. Her story tugged at my heart. Great book!

IndyPL_MaryW Apr 12, 2019

Kimberly Rae Miller’s youth was quite different from others. Imagine dodging Child Protective Services, a house fire, environmental hazards galore, being dropped off at the corner so your friends don’t see where you live. Why, because her parents are hoarders. Coming Clean is her story of struggle, acceptance and love. Her honesty is quite revealing as she divulges her family secrets. Kimberly is conflicted, should she rescue them when the family is force to move? Is she willing to deal with their wrath if she throws out their “prized” possessions? How will friends and dates react when they find out what she has been hiding? Will she become a hoarder? This book tackles a difficult journey from a voice that is seldom heard, one that has lived it. Hoarding is a family affair. If you enjoy reading books about real people, realities of family secrets, and love that goes beyond all of the clutter, then this book is for you.

Jan 29, 2018

Having recently read Coming Clean by Kimberly Rae Miller, I was aware that she was born in the same year as my older son and yet her life was extremely difficult because of her father's extreme hoarding problem. His habits created conflict in the marriage, resulted in a disastrous house fire and a feeling of shame and embarrassment in his daughter Kimberly.
It took many years before she was able to admit to her friends that her life revolved around the revolting living conditions created by her parents and that she and they(her parents) needed help.Her story gives us a deeper understanding of the difficulties and health problems faced by children in these situations.
She loves her parents but writes about the daily issues of trying to belong and cover up the horrors of living in a cluttered and filthy environment. She is torn between wanting to protect them and feeling angry at the repeated need to clean up and sort out their mess.
I would recommend this autobiography as it is very engaging and you can relate to her difficulties and also the complications which can result from a parent who has an obsessive problem such as hoarding.

GillyGal Oct 21, 2017

Biographies are not my go to books but I found this one interesting and well written. The author writes about hoarding from the child's perspective. I gained insight and understanding about a difficult topic. I would recommend this biography.

Apr 22, 2014

Fascinating story of a daughter, her parents and their stuff. It is told without blame or embellishment and makes for a fascinating read.

JCLColleenO Apr 16, 2014

This book explores the stressful relationship between a daughter and her hoarding parents. It gives a fresh perspective on what it would be like to live as a child in a serious hoarding situation, yet never be able to make a clean break due to the love for her parents.

Mar 10, 2014

Excellent autobiography of growing up with parents who are hoarders. It's incredible how things can get so out of control, and also incredible how the love shared between her parents and the writer has managed to not only survive but grow stronger.

Mar 02, 2014

Really enjoyed this easy to read book that had my attention from the start. The story told of the difficulties, shame, and trauma of being raised in such a dysfunctional home but the story was so much more. It told of how difficult, and sometimes impossible, it is for some people with this behaviour to change. Also, it showed that despite, the behaviour and disfunction, there was a deep but complicated love between each of the family members.

Nov 20, 2013

Interesting book which lays bare the author's pain and love for her parents, who were hoarders. It affected all their lives greatly and adversely. She tells her story with great affect and concern and love. Not a light hearted read, but worth reading nevertheless.

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