Stay With Me

Stay With Me

Book - 2017
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"A novel about a married Nigerian couple who must grapple with staggering levels of loss and betrayal in their quest to create a family for themselves" --
Publisher: New York, New York : Alfred A. Knopf, ©2017.
ISBN: 9780451494603
Characteristics: 253 pages ;,22 cm.


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Nov 06, 2018

A heartbreaking story of a Nigerian couple’s desire to have children. Complicated by infertility and the Nigerian custom of taking a second wife to have children, interference by well-meaning family members, the death of children and the fear of facing a third child’s death sends the wife, Yejidi, away to lead a new life. The ending is masterfully written and brings closure to her empty life.

Sep 09, 2018

I don't know what is about Nigeria, but has been fertile ground from writers going back to Chinua Achebe, whose "Things Fall Apart" is often the gateway to African literature for Americans. Other notable writers include playwright Wole Soyinka and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Ayobami Adebayo joins this illustrious company with her strong debut novel, which about marriage, politics, family, and polygamy.

Aug 28, 2018

don't read the reviews - just read the book and let the story unfold. lots of twists and turns as the marriage and the family are revealed.
good book - I just chose it for my book club to read.

Jul 24, 2018

This is a book about a marriage, looked at in universal ways that many people can relate to but also from the more cultural views of a Nigerian couple. It deals with a lot of issues and will evoke many strong opinions and emotions in you when you read it. I thought it was quite good and I will look for more work by this author in the future.

Jul 15, 2018

Yejide and Akin are husband and wife who’s lives become entwined in lies, loss, and polygamy. Narrated by Yejide and Akins own opinions of how their story came to be, make for a unique read.

May 08, 2018

Bailey's short list. Adebayo can certainly tell a story. However, this novel, narrated alternatively by a husband and a wife, raises the issues of polygamy and the necessity to have children, outside the context of patriarchy. The story does not really display any broader understanding beyond the events.

liljables Jan 12, 2018

Stay With Me was one of my favourite works of fiction in 2017. I haven't yet read a book by a Nigerian author that hasn't been completely satisfying! Ayobami Adebayo's debut novel is a compelling narrative that deals with the many, many intricacies of marriage and parenthood within the context of 1980s Nigeria. This novel may be triggering for those who have dealt with infertility or infant loss, but on the other hand, it may be comforting to recognize your own experiences in this narrative. I look forward to reading more from Adebayo.

DPLjennyp Dec 12, 2017

Compelling portrait of marriage and a woman's life in Nigeria. Fabulous characters.

Nov 01, 2017

This is one of my favorite reads of 2017. The author is adept at use of duel point-of-view to tell us a complex story of the fracturing of a marriage. Add to that cultural expectations around family and societal norms. I learned a lot and also kept turning the page.

Sep 21, 2017

A fascinating depiction of marriage complete with loss, grief, betrayal, cultural influences: woman marries man who is impotent, culture demands eldest, most valued son conceives an heir: polygamy is norm: son's mother procures another wife for son to impregnate: son eventually kills 2nd wife: son schemes with his younger brother to impregnate wife: she bears 3 children: one dies of SIDS, the second of sickle cell inherited blood disorder: 3rd lives with sickle cell but mother believes daughter had died of sickle cell after separating from husband.
Well written, pace of plot, impotency, death of 2nd wife introduced within believable context.

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